"Who do you think will be next?"
It was a late summer night. Edit's farewell party just ended, and we banded along the city park with Vince.
First, he didn't answer, but then he looked at me. "I think now there will be silence for a while."
He was wrong. Within two months, two other colleagues said goodbye.
A few days ago, Tomi asked me on slack what I thought about Zoli's resignation, and I recalled this scene from August. Just out of curiosity, I also asked him the question: "Who do you think will be the next one?"
The three dots showed that Tomi was typing.
To be honest, I think you will be the next one. You don't like Drupal, you don't want to be a PO, yet you are PO on Drupal projects. You are young and haven't had many jobs so far. I guess you would like to try yourself somewhere else.
I dropped my pen on the desk.
I was expecting a different answer.
I nearly laughed, but in the meantime, thoughts were flashing in my head. I read again what he wrote. It was a logical train of ideas; most of the statements were true.
I have no intention to leave.
Why? Tomi was right. Indeed, Drupal is not my favorite technology. The PO role made me feel stressed in the last few weeks. Undisputedly I am young, but I used to work at three other places before, and I know for sure which kind of workplace is ideal for me. I am also aware of which criteria IV meets, and which it doesn't.
According to experts, when one of the members of a relationship starts to blink outside, it happens because they try to satisfy the needs they are missing from that situation. The problem is that in many cases, people think that they can supply some kind of deficiency with a new link, but another fifteen will appear, which still worked well in the previous relation.
I don't think that a perfect relationship or an ideal workplace exists. However, it is possible to find a good one that satisfies the majority of our needs.
If I consider the balance of the definite advantages, and what I am missing here, it was evident that IV is still the right choice for me.
However, I could probably find a company where I could work with those technologies I prefer, without getting involved in role-conflicts. But perhaps I wouldn't feel that I would have an impact on forming the company, nor having the possibility to use NVC to communicate my feelings and needs because of the power structures. Imaginably, this kind of workplace would instead provide me financial advantages than well-being.
Last year we said goodbye to four colleagues. It hurts such a small community.
But I will stay, Tomi!
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